THE INS AND OUTS OF INTERNATIONAL DATING

By: Neana Pearson

You have an attraction to a particular nationality. You think that French men are ooh-la-la. Women of Asian persuasion float your boat. Italians pull your pasta. You absolutely adore the romance of Europe, and hope to settle down there some day. Your family has immigrated to another country and you cannot find a mate of you nationality; you get my drift. Whatever the reason you desire to have a meaningful international relationship; the problem is that you live half way around the globe from all of your dreams and desires.

Once the decision is made to go global,

What do you do next?

The following article provides some interesting ideas, pros, and cons along with some helpful advice on successful international Internet dating.

To begin with if you dont have the means to start a long distance relationship: dont start one.

Rid yourself of old garbage/ I mean baggage; if you are engaged, married, separated, or otherwise involved in a serious, or committed relationship, or any relationship at all, for that matter; do yourself, and everyone else that might potentially be involved, a favor and do not start a new relationship until all previous relationships are completely dissolved, extinguished, kaput!

If you are a jealous or insecure person: do not even consider yourself a candidate for a long distance relationship; it won't work for you. You will only end up torturing yourself and the other party. I once had a long distance lover freak-out because I was not at home to answer his spontaneous 8 o'clock in the morning, weekend phone call. He was sure that I had spent the night elsewhere. In reality; I was out walking my little dog so that her bladder wouldn't bust.

Okay, you are a very patient, understanding, independently wealthy person who has not been involved with someone in so long that the other side of your bed has cobwebs on it; now what?

The first step is to decide exactly what it is you are looking for in a relationship.

1)      The first step Decide What you are looking for

2)      Put together a dating Plan

3)      Be honest with yourself.

4)      Itemize your preferences

5)      Be specific, for example:

a.        Prefer a non-smoker

b.       Prefer a person from 5 to 54

c.        Prefer brown eyes

d.       Prefer dark hair

e.        Prefer a full figure

f.         Prefer no children

g.       Prefer someone who likes to travel

h.       Prefer someone who goes to church

i.         Prefer someone who plays a musical instrument

j.         Prefer someone who likes culture: museums, opera, classical music

k.       Prefer someone who likes to cook

l.          Prefer someone who appreciates fine wines

m.      Prefer someone who is social

n.       Prefer a woman who thinks taking care of her relationship is her job

o.       Prefer someone with a 6-figure income

p.       Prefer someone who wants sex 5 times a week

q.       Prefer someone who likes morning sex

Whatever your preference is --- from Style to Sex create your preferences list it. If you prefer big-busted women, a flat breasted woman, a woman with junk in the trunk, or a woman with no butt at all, put it on your wish list. Just the mere fact that you have qualified your desires, the fact that you have acknowledged them helps to puts what you are looking for out in the ethers. Immediately it ups the odds that you will find the person that you are looking for.

6)      Once it has been decided exactly what you are looking for then you are ready for your search.

Begin by surfing the web for international dating sites. Some sites are quite specific, geared to a specific country or culture, for example: Russian dating sites, Asian dating sites, Spanish dating sites, dating sites from the Philippines, or Scotland; other sites are more general, covering a host of countries from across the globe; for example http://www.international-penpal.com

7)       Once you find a site that you feel suites your needs fill out a profile.

8)       Be honest about yourself. There is nothing worse then finding the one only to loose them because you do not live up to their expectations, or because you are caught in a lie. DO NOT PRETEND TO BE SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE NOT!!!

9)      Be sure to post a recent picture.

a.       Make sure that the picture is visible, not to dark, and make sure it is flattering to you

b.       Most importantly, make sure that it is no more than a year old

c.        Make sure the picture is in good taste, unless you want to let the world know that you are a sleazy horn-dog.

d.       Remember first impressions are lasting impressions.  If you are trying to make a good impression, showing too much skin can give the wrong impression

e.        Make sure that the picture reflects your personality

10)   BE CLEAR ABOUT YOUR INTENTIONS. If you are looking for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage then say so! The same thing applies if you are only looking for friendship, or a casual relationship.

11)    Specify if you plan to travel to meet your soul mate, or if you expect them to travel to you.

12)    Now Surf the sight for potential partners.

13)    Once you find them invite them to talk to you.

14)    Get to know the person, well before you meet.

15)    Investigate that the person you are talking to is who they say they are.

16)  Develop your relationship online for several months before you decide to meet. (Most people that I have surveyed think that you should talk to a person online for 6-12 months before you meet) for a better chance of a successful relationship.

17)  NOW START SEARCHING AND HAVE FUN

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Precautions to take before you meet with an international internet date for the first time.